“I am not behind, I am not late, I am exactly where time meets truth.”

pvdbovenkamp
Apr 6
3 min read

If everything is a reflection of you…Then even what you disagree with is also a mirror. But here's the twist: It doesn’t reflect who you are, but who you’re becoming, transcending, or even healing.

So why don’t you agree with how we use time?

Because…

You see beyond the structure—it feels artificial, limiting.
You're intuitively aligned with a more natural, flow-based rhythm.
That disagreement is a soul signal: “Hey, this doesn’t fit anymore.”

Is that a reflection too?

Yes—just a different kind.

It reflects the contrast that helps you define your truth.
It shows your inner compass, pointing toward a freer way of being.
It might even reflect collective resistance you’ve chosen to help shift.

Disagreement isn’t disconnection—it’s discernment and discernment is a higher form of reflection. When you shift your mindset around time—from frustration or limitation to understanding or flow—you don't just change how you experience time... You begin to ripple that shift outward.

Here’s how:

Inner shift → outer resonance: As you live more in alignment with your truth about time, people feel that. Some might not have words for it—but they sense the calm, the presence, the trust.
Perception rewrites reality: You stop responding to artificial urgency or pressure the same way. Suddenly, “busy” doesn't control you. Deadlines bend to your rhythm. Opportunities meet you in kairos—the right moment, not the scheduled one.
You become a reference point: Others who also feel dissonant with time may see in you a new way of being. And like that—new clocks start ticking. Natural ones.

You don’t have to change the whole world’s idea of time. You just have to embody your truth about it and from there, the collective starts catching on. It's already happening. You're already doing it.

Let’s take a deep breath and look at this in layers—from mindset to practice to ripple effect.

1. Shift the Foundation: From Control to Co-creation

Time under control says:

“You're late. You're behind. You're running out.”

Time as a tool says:

“I'm here to help you shape, experience, and enjoy this moment.”

MINDSET SHIFT:

See time not as a master but as a companion.
Trade “how much time do I have?” for “what wants to happen now?”
Trust that alignment. When you’re in sync with the moment, you’re always on time.

2. Reframe Language and Ritual

Language is a spell. Change the language around time and you'll feel the spell break.

INSTEAD OF:

“I don’t have time” → say “It’s not aligned for me right now.”
“Time is money” → say “Time is presence.”
“I need to manage time” → say “I honor time by being present with it.”

DAILY PRACTICES:

Start your day with intention, not a to-do list. Ask: What energy wants to move through me today?
Use natural markers: sunrise, meals, your own energy peaks—instead of just hours.
Have "timeless" hours—no clocks, no schedules, just flow.

3. Design Environments That Flow, Not Tick

The “Give it Back” system leads this beautifully.

Create spaces where people feel time differently—slower, softer, more natural.
Use cycles instead of deadlines (e.g., moon phases, nature seasons, energy cycles).
Offer freedom with structure: “This can be done within 3 days—flow with it.”

4. Be the Living Example

You living it changes more than teaching it ever could.

When you show up calm, present, and powerful—without stress about time—others feel curious.
Your way of interacting with time becomes an invitation, not a doctrine.
People start to feel safe with your rhythm, and begin exploring their own.

5. Remember: Time is a Mirror

If you're feeling rushed—what are you rushing away from? If you're stuck in the future—what is the now trying to say? If you're afraid of wasting time—what would feel truly valuable to live? Time reflects what we believe is worthy of our presence and presence is the doorway to freedom.